How to STOP enabling my drug addicted husband

Are you ready to hear the truth?

Some women will post on my blog about how they want to stop enabling their husband’s addiction. Their posts seem so desperate and so imminent. I know what they are going through because I have been there; I was married to an addict, too. So, I spend time and energy crafting a heartfelt and realistic response. I try to address their needs and personalize the advice for them and then … weeks will go by and … nothing. Months and … nothing. Some of these women never reply.

I thought about this for a while and tried to put myself in their shoes. When they are reading online for answers and posting their frustrations and their stories they are usually in a crisis situation, either the addict is binging on drugs, disappeared, or done some other inexcusable act. Just because they are posting on my blog does not mean that they are ready to hear what I have to tell them.

When I explain what is most likely to happen or what will help them in the long run, they do not answer back because that is not the answer they were looking for. Most women are not ready to hear that they need to change. Perhaps telling their stories just helps them purge all of their anxiety or they still believe I can tell them how they can fix their partner.


2 thoughts on “How to STOP enabling my drug addicted husband

  1. 9 years and to many tears im ready for some support and as much as i wish i didn’t have to face facts i am ready to i know alot of our enabling behaviors come from our own emotional issues. I have been focusing in detail on this in my relationship and i see it i know im ready to learn to be strong and happy. Tears non stop falling for weeks because i know its near the end. Its painful but i prey pain brings joy in days to come. If you can help me with advise i would be more than grateful. Ive learned alot just from ur page. My life is important and i know this can not continue another day. Thank you for your story the comfort i feel from finding ur information is so heartfelt. Where else can i buy ur book without paying $15 for shipping


    • Thank you for sharing here. You are in a good place. This is about getting you better so you can heal and get to a healthy and happy place. It’s a lot of work but if you are committed nothing can stop you.
      You can buy the book as an ebook. No shipping and much less.


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